fabulazerstokill:

harrysde:

From Elon James White Tuesday night.

This better have hundreds of thousands of notes at the end of the day or else

I was thinking this morning that the protestors are going to have PTSD after this. How can they not?

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On Being “Too Intimidating”

jenkirkman:

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I was talking to a guy friend the other day and we were having a stupid conversation.  He said to me, “Would you ever date a rapper?”  And I said, “Why?”  And he said, “What if he sang things that you didn’t like?”  My answer was, “Well, like anyone who talks or puts words into the world for a living, I probably wouldn’t date someone who says things for a living that I don’t like.”  But then I quickly turned it into a joke based on my year of unparalleled mini-rejections and a dry spell.  I said, “Now.  Would a rapper date a female comedian?”  (Normally, I don’t say “female comedian” but for this story where it’s imperative to the tale that I’m a female who is heterosexual and a comedian.) 

 My friend laughed and we both said, “No.”  But then he seriously said, “You’re too intimidating to men.”  This friend of mine has a girlfriend and is younger than me and we have nothing between us.  He technically would date a female comic – but he doesn’t.  So he’s on our side and his saying, “You’re too intimidating to men…” was meant as a consolation and even something for me to feel empowered about.  I didn’t mean to go slightly volcanic on my friend but I did.  I said, “You know what?  I don’t know if I’m allowed to do this – but I’m going to start responding to male friends who ‘console’ me with saying, “Men are intimidated by you” by saying, “That’s sexist and this has to stop.”

 I hope I didn’t lose you with “sexist.”  I also said, “That’s bullshit and this has to stop.”

Too many of my straight, male friends have told me – not unsolicited – but when I’m saying to them, “This is getting to absurd levels, the amount of guys this year that I’ve asked out, or casually offered maybe a friends with benefits thing to who have said, NO.”  My male friends say, “Men are too intimated by women with a career or especially comics and musicians.”  It always leaves me feeling bad.  So, I’m to be punished for working really hard on my career and now I’m enjoying the bonus of traveling and making people laugh for a living?  Am I supposed to console myself when I’m feeling like getting some with the notion that if only I weren’t so intimidating someone would be sticking it to me?

If this article is interpreted the wrong way and I get a bunch of White Knights telling me, “I’M NOT INTIMIDATED” – I’m going to jump off a bridge.  I’ll survive, because I’m so strong, and intimidating, and truly it’s a small bridge that’s more of a summer watering hole but I’ll jump and scream.

I’m just wondering if other women are sick of being consoled with “You’re too intimidating.”  To that I say, “Well, these men are pussies. This is bullshit.”  Everyone loves to apply pop psychology to comedians (maybe musicians too) – well, let me get psychology 101 on you.  It’s my sensitivity and empathy (like all people possess, I don’t have more of it – I’m just in touch with it) that makes me good at my job.  In my off hours, I’m a nice person.  A guy would only have to hang out with me once to see that I’m not always holding a microphone and I guess just being emasculating  by my very existence.  So, are the women who are dating, married, getting laid casually not intimidating? Am I to look at my friends and think they’re weak or are the proper amount of feminine or are they simply quiet ladies who cook?  That would be insulting to them AND to men – it would imply that they have an easily intimated man who found a weakling to not make him feel bad.

It could be that this dry spell is because I’ve had it good – I’ve had it really good for the past few years and the Universe can’t keep up it’s production of men to throw my way – but whatever the case….if your female friends are complaining about offering themselves to someone who said, “Nah,” or having an overflow of male friends who are already taken – please don’t say to them in a supportive way, “Men are intimidated.”  That shuts the conversation down.  It assigns a complex to the woman and causes bitterness and it might not even be true.

And if you are someone who is intimidated – nut up, dudes.  You statistically still have more upper body strength and you’ll always win at arm-wrestling.

***UPDATE*****
Well, as I expected the only responses I’ve gotten so far are from dudes who are reminding me that “strong men who are confident like strong women.”  UGH. I KNOW. Again, I’m not some librarian spinster from the 1950’s with cobwebs in her vagina.  I’ve met these men. This article, unless I’m a HORRIBLE writer who can’t get her point across, is about NO LONGER using the “You’re too intimidating to men” consolation. STRONG AWESOME DUDES use this sentence on their female friends and I was wondering what other women - think of it?? And when men who are dating people think when they hear this? Are they insulted too??

xoxo—-jk

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mdthwomp:

Unfriendly reminder that in America it’s reasonable to say an unarmed black kid deserved to be shot six times because he might have robbed a convenience store, but a white kid shouldn’t be kicked off the high school football team just because he violently raped a girl.

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